I’ve been all over the road this past week, literally and emotionally. It’s already been an incredible year and it’s only February 2nd. Have you already done or accomplished something in 2010 that you’ll remember the rest of your life? It’s an important question to ask ourselves. I’m not going to go into my own personal lists here because it feels self serving. What I am going to do is offer some tips on creating some lasting memories out of seemingly mundane routines or obligations.

Interpersonal.

The people in our lives are a mirror of the love we are putting out there. Are they feisty and hard to please? Are they loving and accepting? Are they just happy to see you? This is definitely an area where it’s hard to stay fully conscious, especially if you consider yourself to be a “busy” person. When you approach your time from a place of scarcity versus abundance, all of your interactions feel forced or rushed, and you perceive people as wanting to take time from you. If you feel this way about anyone in your life, I advise just staying away for the time being. You clearly don’t have enough to offer them, and vice versa. However, if you consciously focus on their positive attributes and the amazing contributions they’ve made to your life despite your internal drama cycle, you’ll be surprised how the interaction goes. We need to make constant deposits into other people’s emotional bank accounts (7 Habits), not from some needy place of attaching karmic strings to our good deeds. Why not just be a helpful, cheerful, good person to be around and express your love and respect to the people closest to you? I mean really, what else do we really have except for the people we love in our lives?

Service.

This is closely tied to the interpersonal,  but we need to approach every relationship from a state of service. What can I help you with? What are the ways that I can contribute to your life right now? By attending to your needs I’m not denying mine. That thinking takes you into some negative, scarcity mentality. I want to help you just because I’ve figured some of this stuff out, and I know you’ll reciprocate.  I’m not trying to make myself feel better, or stock pile the favors you owe me in return. Do unto others as they would do unto you is kind of outdated. Hand me a giant knot of Christmas lights, your litany of troubles and worries, your momentary bad attitude. It’s my job to serve our relationship even in these moments. If I’ve uncovered any solution that you may use, how would it serve me to hold it back? Here’s my time and my attention to your problem, let’s both move onward. You don’t even need to thank me because it’s understood. I’ll be honest if time is an issue. Sometimes we help each other by politely declining so others can find the real solution they’re looking for. If you only give me problems however, it’s clear that I’m only enabling you and you have some work to do before we can play together again.

The state of service cannot be underestimated. We often do only what the ceiling on our compensation justifies. “Screw that, they’re not paying me to do this…” If you explode your level of service, your value explodes as well. It’s universal law that you will be compensated accordingly. Money is only one (arbitrary) measurement. What about emotional rewards like more love, respect, reverence, and inspiration? What about opening  doors to new opportunities, access to new people who inspire you in exciting new ways? We are leading one another forward through our focus on service. I can’t quantify the number of hours I’ve worked on Hamell’s site, or his career in general. I just don’t notice the time. In fact, I’ve never done it to punch some stupid time sheet. I’ve done it because the ride is exhilarating, and in moments when it’s not, I know it’s time to do something else. This is how you can look back at 6 months with awe of what you’ve accomplished. I’ve gone from not having the time to do it, to scaling some pretty large mental mountains.

We’ll continue this train of thought tomorrow. Enjoy yourselves.

Oh yes, I thought I’d post this. It’s a quick little 2 minute video of my client outing from last Friday. I took some people Extreme Snow Tubing. Needless to say, whenever you can laugh and scream together, you walk away feeling noticeably more alive and happy with the state of your relationships. I’m not here to sell shit. I’m here to whip up torrents of good vibes. Recognize me when you’re able, which is something I need to remember myself on the occasions  I come unplugged.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }